Advice to teens´ problems.

1.EATING DISORDERS

You cause cause serious injury to yourself.

Anorexia is extremely dangerous.

You need help to stop it..

 I should  go to a health or counseling center in your area or at school

 Starving is not taking care of yourself. Starving is starving.

2. LOVE PROBLEMS

The key to any good relationship is communication.

You shouldn¨t hurt a person´s feelings.

You should be Frank and honest,

You shouldn´t lie. He/ she'll appreciate your openness and consideration.

It is very hard to be in love with someone when it creates such terrible problems with your parents, friends,..

One very important thing for you to know is that you can fall deeply in love at age 16, and fall out of love two weeks later.

Of course, it is painful to break up with someone you are in love with. However, if that is your decision, you must understand that the pain will pass with time.

You will miss him at first, but if you socialize with friends  you will feel better.

3. DIVORCE/FAMILY PROBLEMS

Your parents  are getting a divorce but they are still living together in your house.

Divorce is always hard for children

Your parents can have  problems and  they can’t give you the support you need

You should  start a conversation with each one separately

You should explain  how you’re feeling

You should ask  them about  their plans  for the future:

 Will they be share custody?

Where will you live?

You can also talk to a counselor or social worker at school or a trusted teacher.

You can  also talk  with friends  whose parents are divorced, because they can understand your feelings

I think you should find an adult to discuss this situation

You can talk with a guidance counselor at school.

Your safety is very important. You do not deserve to be beaten for any reason.

4. FRIENDS

If  friends  leave you out , they are not real friends.

Sometimes friends  are  easily influenced by other people. You should talk to them

You should ask him/her why they ignore you.

You should begin to expand your social network.

You can still enjoy time with her/ him but you should try to meet other nice people too.

You shoudl talk to your parents  about problems.

You  must also find  a trusted adult  to share  your concerns.. They could be school administrator, councellor, a teacher, …

You should start  an after-school activity where you will meet new people.

 5. BULLYING

It’s important to talk to someone about this because it is unhealthy for you.

You should tell your parents what’s been going on.

You should bring your parents to school to talk to a teacher or principal.

No one should go to school worrying about what other kids will say.

Your school is responsible for making sure you’re in a safe and caring environment.

 Your parents can  also find a profesional to help you

You  must also find  a trusted adult  to share  your concerns.. They could be school administrator, councellor, a teacher, …

No body should make embarrasing or nasty comments about you . You can directly and assertively tell them to stop saying things that are not true.

6.  SELF STEEM

Everybody has some positive qualities.

Nobody  should make you feel bad.

Everybody makes mistakes and that is the way we learn.

We are not perfect. You should accept and love yourself the way you are.

When  you are ready,  you should extend your network of caring people.  

You should talk to other members of your family, such as uncles, aunts, cousins, grandparents….

Your parents shouldn´t  hurt you or  your brother or sister in any possible way.

Parents should  love you, and help you through hard times

 7. SEXUAL / GENDER  IDENTITY

If you feel confused about your gender identity, you're not alone.

We should  accep differences in gender identity.

Although most people don't question their gender, gender identity is more complex for some young people .

You can be uncertain about your gender identity and feel anxious about it.

it's important to talk to an adult you can trust. You  must also find  a trusted adult  to share  your concerns.. They could be school administrator, councellor, a teacher

8. GENERAL  ADVICE

One source of advice is the  Teléfono del menor- Call the toll-free number for free advice.

 Do some web research to get the names of local organizations that deal with domestic or sexual violence including those that serve the LGBTQ community: Querote mais, Sos Racismo galicia

You should talk to an adult  you trust at your school or community:  a counselor, nurse,doctor, or teacher.